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homeschool dropouts

This post PAINS me to write. From the very bottom of my being I wanted for us to be a homeschooling family. I wanted to have what I read about on so many other blogs. I wanted to have what so many of my friends have. But the reality is, my family is not those families. And I am not those moms. Homeschooling for THIS family has been nothing but an uphill battle since day one, way back in August. We struggled to find a routine. We struggled with motivation. I struggled with not having enough hours in the day to accomplish all that needed to be done, despite lowering my expectations of myself and those around me. And from the beginning, my husband was never 100% on board. He let me have a go at homeschooling to see if it would work because he knew how much I wanted to do it. But whenever we had conversations about the future, he always talked about our kids being in school. I’m thankful that he let me try. But the bottom line is that it’s time for me to put my pride aside and stop pretending this is working, because it’s not. We are homeschool dropouts. Addison starts Kindergarten Monday morning at 9am.

I felt very compelled to share the struggles I have had with this all year long for a number of reasons, but mainly because I have a feeling there are other moms and other families who are in the same boat. You choose to homeschool because you feel it’s what you’re supposed to do to be a good mom…to be a true Christian mom…to educate your children in the way that God intended for them to be educated. I get that. And it all sounds really lovely. I’ve read all the books that made me feel like I was doing the right thing. I had visions in my mind of what homeschool could be like if only “such and such” were different. Or what it could be like in a few years. I had so many great ideas of the fun lessons we would do down the road, and all the fun books we would read together. But that was not my reality. My reality involved an uphill battle every single day to get our lessons done. School was not fun for Addison and it was not fun for me. No matter how many awesome lesson I came up with, no matter how many fun snacks I made to bribe her to do her work, no matter WHERE we did school, it was never fun for her. That’s not how it’s supposed to be. Kindergarten is supposed to be the most fun year of school a child has. Homeschooling may be God’s perfect plan for some families, but God did not intend for school to ruin the relationship between mother and daughter. And that is what is happening here. So we are homeschool dropouts.

I know some who are reading this are thinking, “Just don’t worry about it. It’s just Kindergarten. Keep her home and let her play.” But that is not going to fly in this house. My husband does not share that philosophy of homeschooling, and at this point, I’m not sure WHAT I believe anymore. So we are going to try school. It’s going to be the shock of a lifetime for this five year-old. She will be gone from 9:00 am-3:31 pm. But you know what? She’s excited to go. She is excited to learn with other kids and to do “centers” and to play at recess and to have art and music class. And I’m excited for her. I think she will thrive at school, despite the fact that this all goes completely against the rosy picture I had painted in my mind of what our elementary years would be like. Now that I’ve had a minute to process all of this, I feel a strange sense of peace about the situation…and quite frankly, a relief that the battle will be over.

So if you are the praying type, please say a prayer that this transition is as smooth as possible for all of us. And if you are also struggling with homeschooling, please know that you are not alone. Homeschooling is not for everyone. And not homeschooling doesn’t make you any less of a parent, or any less of a Christian. I hope that you will find encouragement from our family to make the decision to do what’s best for your child whether that means choosing homeschool or “regular” school.

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13 Responses to We Are Homeschool Dropouts

  1. Nicole b. says:

    Don’t feel bad about making that choice because you you have to do what works for your family. I hope that she adjusts well to school and you can find peace in your decision. With that being said there is no rule saying you can’t give homeschooling another go down the road if it feels right. Plus you will do amazing things with her in all those after school hours and weekends when it fits in. The learning doesn’t stop when kids get home from school. We’ll miss you at Nature Study, but I wish you the best and less stress.

  2. Carolina says:

    Better to have tried and failed, than to never have tried at all, right?
    Just like traditional schooling isn’t right for all kids (or all families), I don’t think homeschooling isn’t a one-size-fits-all option, either. I know my oldest would not thrive in a homeschooling environment, and neither would I. It doesn’t mean we don’t love one another. It doesn’t mean that I don’t help him learn, challenge his mind, or contribute to his education.
    You can still be active in her education, by volunteering in the classroom. And day-to-day with homework, following up on lessons learned in class, and encouraging her to ask questions and find the answers.
    We moms already wear so many hats… I applaud those who add the hat of “teacher” to their collection… but it isn’t for all of us.
    I hope your daughter enjoys these last few months of kindergarten, and is able to thrive in the classroom environment.

  3. Chione says:

    I too will echo what has been said already. Homeschooling is not for everyone — if anything, it is even more critical that it is the right fit for both parents and kids. Take what excited you about homeschooling and wrap it into the fabric of your life. It’s not a check box that needs to be completed, it’s a state of mind and approach to learning. Find what works for your family and make the best of it. =)

  4. Your honesty is refreshing and I highly respect you for being so candid, despite the criticism you may receive. But as a Kindergarten teacher, I can only hope that your daughter will have an amazing finish to her Kindergarten year! I will be thinking of you Monday! :-)

  5. Susan Evans says:

    Each person needs to spend time in prayer and obey what God wants them to do. For some, it is homeschooling, for others it is public or private school.

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  8. I think it’s so important to do what’s right for your family and your children. Homeschooling works so well for some families, and for some children, school works better. I applaud you for trying and doing what was best for your family.

    • homespunsprout@gmail.com says:

      Thanks for the encouragement! It was such a hard decision, but it’s working out great for us. Thanks for reading!

  9. […] In case you missed the story behind us throwing in the homeschooling towel, you can read about it HERE. I thought it might be a good idea to share a homeschool dropout update to give you a glimpse of […]

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